resilience + how you treat ourself
Happy Friday!
One aspect of resilience is how we respond to others when non-preferred situations arise.
The other, and arguably more important, aspect of resilience is how we treat ourselves in response to these situations!
In this drop, let's unpack that aspect!
Best,
~Kimberly x
01.
resilience
We all have our triggers. Some triggers illicit very little reaction within us, thus illicit very little urgency to respond. On the other end of the spectrum, some triggers can illicit such a strong reaction within us that we can barely control our own response to them!
Either way, resilience is gauged by our ability to recover from difficulties.
The good news, is that if you are reading these words...
You have resilience!
You have arrived in this moment!
You have survived your difficulties!
... You Are Resilient!
Please give yourself some credit and acknowledge this about yourself.
Oftentimes, we discount our own capabilities because we compare ourselves to an 'ideal' ... an ideal way of conducting ourselves, an ideal way of reacting, an ideal that we are not currently exhibiting ... an ideal that most likely does not even exist!
Think about that! Is there only one way to behave that proves you are resilient? Does the ideal that we hold ourselves up to even exist?
Probably not! So, why compare yourself to it?
Please take a breath, take a moment, give yourself some grace and repeat aloud "I am resilient!" so every cell in your body can hear it!
02.
how we treat ourselves
So, the real question isn't whether or not you have resilience. The real question is ... how do you exhibit resilience in regard to yourself when you are faced with difficulty?
Do you go into an entire conversation of belittling yourself ... for minutes, hours, days?
Do you stay steeped in the flood of negative emotions ... with no techniques to bring your nervous system back into regulation?
Do you make yourself small, retreat, diminish yourself?
None of the above is a reflection of a great plan of showing resilience.
So my invitation to you is to create that plan!
Write down 5 things that you will do to treat yourself with kindness the next time you are triggered or experience a difficulty. And commit to following that plan!
Why does this matter?
Because if you are equipped with a plan for how you will treat yourself well when you are triggered, then you'll be much better equipped to handle others well during those times too!
Difficulties will probably happen!
Your resilience to them is your choice!
Experiment with this ...
You will be surprised with the results!
And be sure to let me know your experience too!
p.s. Is there any way that I can support you? Simply hit reply to let me know or scheduling a chat with me!! :-)
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